Dating a younger man gay
First, please drop the sharp tone and accusatory remarks, especially that you think Justin is a “predator.” That’s a very loaded term, as Kenny Levine, a psychotherapist who works with LGBT individuals, told me: “I think we need to reserve this word for individuals that engage in sexual behavior with someone who cannot give consent to sexual activity.” Second, appreciate that your son has come out to you and is not having a clandestine relationship.
He trusts you — and I’d suggest you follow his example.
They met last year when Tim was still in high school!
Like me, you may consider some of these pairings weird or even creepy, but I’d venture that in each situation, the “junior” partner no doubt found something she needed in the “senior” — wealth, status, experience, stability (and vice versa). An older partner isn’t by definition a parent substitute.
I took your question to my Facebook page, where reactions were pretty much equally divided.
“Joseph” met his husband, who’s 14 years his senior, when the younger man was 21; they’ve now been together for 27 years. You fall in love with who that person is, not their age.” Meanwhile, Carl Sandler, who runs Age Appropriate, a blog about intergenerational dating, told me: “In the gay community, it is very common for younger and older men to date.
Common interests are the new demographic — not age.” I’m not exactly sure how “common” such dating is, but I’m familiar with many same-sex couples with significant age differences.